I spoke with the new new man this afternoon — while A was here. I received a cute voicemail from him and we chatted for a bit.
He opted out of my gift idea. He actually went to Saks to look for something and then, being in an unrelated bad mood, couldn’t find anything he liked . . . or justify getting something I could easily get here. So, I kind of failed the test, but we both passed, of course, by enhancing our understanding of how the other thinks. It’s fascinating. I told him something that could have been simple or extravagant. When I mentioned to him that he could have gone in another way, he corrected me that he actually couldn’t. Good man.
I have no idea if he will bring me anything at all. All I really wanted was to see him tomorrow, which I will.
He flies back in the morning and I will see him late afternoon/early evening. He asked if we could do something low-key, since he is exhausted. I happily agreed because I have been ill all week.
Our first date was the best first date ever. Our second date might be us falling asleep on the sofa while watching football.
I personally would wait beyond your second date. I mean it’s fine to kiss and show affection, but as far as anything else I think it’s too soon. Guys like the chase and the challenge and no matter what they say they respect the woman who shows class and doesn’t give it up too soon. Men are true hunters and if they can catch their prey that quick the interest in the hunt is pretty much over. Most guys will tell you that they will take sex from any woman on the first few dates, but they choose the woman they will consider a relationship with the one they had to work harder to get.