BFD and I have been dating for 8 weeks and we have had 5 dates. That looks so pathetic, but since we met, he has taken 5 trips. We are closer than 5 dates, but not as close as 8 weeks, if that makes sense. Our communication has definitely improved and overall we’re getting much closer (and we started immediately comfortable with each other). For the past 2 weeks, we’ve been speaking daily while he is in town.
Because of our schedules, we do not get to see each other as often as we would like. I am often overbooked since it’s socialite season and he is wrapping a big project with many details only he can do. Starting Sunday, I am out of town for at least 10 days for vacation followed by a business trip. He is out of town for 8 days for a business trip followed by vacation.
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My heart is still pounding as I type this 20 minutes later . . .
BFD just called to arrange date 6, after we spent a while talking about our days and respective workouts.
Date 6 will be a double date . . . with his architect and wife. I cannot believe it. He was telling me that his architect would be flying into town on Friday and then invited me to go to dinner with them. This is someone he has worked with for years on multiple projects, and BFD kept saying what a great guy he is. I am just amazed that will be our date.
I not processing this at all — he invited me to a dinner with one of his long-time business associates.
I am actually thrilled beyond belief. Between beaming and pondering wardrobe choices (seriously, I have no idea what to wear), I have one thought: I think he’s my boyfriend.
What a wonderful vote of confidence in me and our relationship.
I am just amazed that he would include me. It is not that it’s our only time together. We could certainly move things around this week or see each other Saturday. Instead, he wants to have me meet his long-time architect, who he has worked with for years, knows well, and really likes. I am just stunned.
I called Q because he’s on the west coast and I knew he’d still be up. He said, “yep, you have a boyfriend,” and confirmed this is a big deal.
Seriously, I am freaking out.
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Completely disconnected elements from tonight’s BFD conversation:
He hates gifts, trinkets are wasted on him, and anything he wants, he buys for himself. Still, I will look for something tokenish from Florida and I know exactly what token to get him from New York. No magnets. He said his favorite gift is something he picked out himself 15 years ago that he has his parents buy for him. He listed off all the things he will be buying for himself related to all his sports-endeavors. I had to stop myself from saying “I suppose you should tell me what you want so I can tell your parents.” Weird thought, especially since I don’t know his parents. But that was really what I was thinking.
He is a total snob, and dismissed an invitation we received to an event tomorrow, which I had already declined on our behalf, as pretentious and yuppie. Dude, seriously? Then he insulted our town for being “15 years behind the times.” Dude, seriously??? You moved here from a resort town and you think we’re behind cultural trends? Yes, I get you’re not into wine. You were already dismissive when I brought up the vineyard dinner on date 2. (Plus, I reminded you tonight that I knew you were dismissive in affect then.) You will have to get over it; wine is a big part of what I do socially. The funny thing is I know you will.
We spent a ton of time talking about our respective workouts. He wants me to try the class he is doing to help rehab his injury. He says he is the only man there and that it is filled normally with “a bunch of old biddies” — exactly something I would say. I told him I am hitting the trail (today was the third consecutive day) and tonight, I did pilates mat, which was awesome. He is getting his bike tuned, so horror of horrors, I think a bike ride may be in my future, too.
I really enjoy speaking to him as we wind down from our days. We each work so hard and our days are so long, especially when we’re each putting in serious exercise time. (I love that he is a competitive athlete. His interest is pushing me harder to be in the best shape I can be.) We speak about random things, business things, and lifestyle things. He asked me if I had the heat on here. I told him of course I did, it’s cold! I sense some temperature incompatibility. I suppose it’s a good thing we’ve not spent the night together, though that should change at some point.
Our conversations are great and always interesting. I keep learning new things about him and I have begun to be more playful with him. He’s a very serious guy, but he seems to enjoy me.
I am still so surprised by the plan for our sixth date. He said he will confirm with them and then we will need to figure out a restaurant. I told him I would certainly help him come up with ideas, since he’s only lived here 6 months. I am so excited about it and so freaked.
