I Am Back, Baby

Pre-BP, I had a well-defined specialty as a lawyer and executive.  It’s a small specialty with very few practitioners and it is among the few things a lawyer can do that other people think is cool.  It’s generally multi-jurisdictional and the business tends to be more loose than in other practice areas.  In other words, [...]

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Rethinking the Relationship

I have been a little twisted this week.
I was annoyed with BFD after Monday’s lengthy, intense conversation.  I know that it was for my benefit.  I know his heart was in the right place.  I know he just wants to help me be successful.  I know he is suspicious of BP and whether he is [...]

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Protected: Secrets Revealed?

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Clarifications and Steps Back

BFD and I had a two hour conversation last night, in which I confessed to him my fears and anxieties about my new business, while he criticized our model, and, by extension, insulted me.
It was awful and uncomfortable and I know he just doesn’t get it.  He also is not getting me in it.
This morning, [...]

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“People You May Know”

My favorite part of facebook, aside from getting to look at pictures of myself or at pictures of BFD, is “People You May Know.”
Today, for the first time, “X,” my former friend popped up.  We have someone in common, so I am only surprised it had not happened earlier.
I checked out his profile, open to [...]

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Passing Tests on Date 10

Saturday was my 10th date with BFD in the nearly four months we’ve been together.
In many ways, it was a momentous date.  We stepped outside of our comfort zones completely and gained an entirely new appreciation for each other.
We had a long-scheduled and long-delayed sport-related activity that we intended to do.  BFD showed up on [...]

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A Family Wedding

My male cousin L is getting married in the fall and it is throwing everyone into a tizzy.  Assuming they go through with it, it will be the first wedding among my many cousins.
Over the past 15 years, I have planned 3 weddings, to 2 different men,  The closest was canceled 4 months ahead of [...]

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Ninth Date Reflections

Sometimes, I am such an idiot.
I was a little freaked out by Friday’s date with BFD.  The sex was different — even better in many ways — but different.  I was slightly uncomfortable, thinking, wow, this is great, but because it was so different: who else has he been doing this with since we’ve been [...]

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Weighty Issues 5 –The Ex Perspective — 114.8

My ex “A” and I have known each other for almost 9 years, through skinniness and fatness, in sickness and in health.
We are still very close. Close enough he comes over at least once a week to hang out and watch stuff on the dvr, close enough he stays at the condo and cat-sits [...]

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New Moves on the Ninth Date

I saw BFD this afternoon.
He called at 3:40 (we had a date set for 5) to say, how about I come over now?  I had just gotten out of the shower, still in my towel with soaking wet hair, which I told him.  He said “so you’re clean?” and that he’d be here in 20 [...]

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