Better

At some point, I will go back and update the blog to capture what’s been happening for the past week or so.  I’ve been writing, but not finishing anything, so distracted, so upset, I’ve been incapable of doing anything.
The short version: things with BFD have been sucktastic for a week, maybe longer.  We have been [...]

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Nice Chats

I have had a couple of nice chats with BFD tonight.
He called me after his class, all bubbly and excited. He wants me to go, too, but we agreed I had to wait. He even offered to pay for me to participate. (Of course, after first considering if he could get [...]

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Two Questions

My ex A is still one of my best friends.  We have been family to each other for nine years, though we split up almost two years ago.
Because he is attending an intensive 2.5 month training program for his new blue collar career, we have not seen much of each other lately and I have [...]

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Tears

I have spent the day crying.
Even now, I have tears in my eyes and occasionally running down my cheeks.
This is the second day out of the last seven that I have been crying on and off all day. It’s also the second day I am not really sure why I am crying.
I had a [...]

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Intellectual Compatibility

W called me to discuss his relationship with his on/off girlfriend On/Off. He kicked off this conversation by talking about how stupid she is and how she took his effort to correct her on a pop culture reference she got embarrassingly wrong so poorly. They were with a group of people and she flipped [...]

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He Knows.

My heading is spinning a bit.
All of the things I think BFD doesn’t see, he knows.
He takes care of me when I think he is not paying attention.
The things I think are mistakes or oversights or whatever on his part . . . he knows.
It’s all been deliberate, these little ways he takes care of [...]

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Date 32, Greatest Hits

Tonight was a blast. It had elements of all of my favorite dates with BFD — we hung out, we had sex, we went to our favorite upscale Chinese place, we talked, we played “name that tune” with his iphone. We laughed, we teased each other, he asked for my advice on an [...]

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Reflections on Date 32

I am still a bit giddy about last night’s date. I am stopping myself from calling him to be all lovey-dovey, but I cannot stop smiling about it. It was a perfect encapsulation of everything I love about him and our relationship.
In my efforts to diminish my opportunities for heartbreak, I tend to [...]

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Finishing the Project

My big project is not done. It’s not ready. I know I have a reason for the delay, but I don’t yet know what it is. I am not overly concerned about it.
With what I do, this planning thing, I can’t rush it. If it’s not ready, it’s not ready. [...]

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My Real Weight Loss Secret: Water

No matter what medical science may say, I know I have one secret to weight loss.
Water.
The more water — and tea — I drink, the more weight I lose.
Yes, I watch my calories carefully always (even when I splurge, I am aware that I am splurging), I avoid empty carbs like I have an allergy [...]

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