After last night’s second consecutive sex-free (illness-shortened) date, I spoke with BFD around 4ish to check on him and to see if we were getting together for dinner. We discussed our days and toward the end, I asked about dinner.

He immediately snapped at me: “[Plan], I don’t know yet, I don’t have time to think about it, I’ll call you back in an hour.” I snapped back at him: “okay.” He immediately shifted tone, to speak sweetly.

It was so quick, his recognition of sounding fucked up, and he corrected it right away. It’s clear that my BFD training is going well.


We did not speak again on Monday, but that was okay because I know that Tuesday is a downtown workout day for him and we have gotten together for dinner that night.