Today, I am a little down. It’s my ex’s birthday and for the second year in a row, I am not celebrating it in our traditional way as we had for the seven years prior to that.

A and I remain close and we see each other at least once a week.

I called him and we exchanged texts. He is working a 24 hour shift today, so birthday celebrations will have to wait. His official celebration — if there is one — would not be arranged by me. He has a new girl he has been dating for a few months. I have no idea of her name or what she does or how he knows her.

That’s not unusual for A. He keeps his circles discrete.

I am arranging cocktails with my friends this week, but out of deference to A, I am not inviting BFD. A would not have a problem if BFD were there, but he has no interest in meeting him. (I cannot imagine BFD would be any more interested in meeting A, but he would probably show if I asked.)

So, happy birthday, A. I hope this is a great year for you, filled with peace and love.