I often claim, in hushed tones, to be secretly geeky.
If you are my friend, you know it’s no secret. I am totally geeky, but it amuses me to pretend that I am not.
This afternoon, I called N to confirm our date for tomorrow night. He’s notorious for calling en route without confirmation or from a place where he reasonably assumes I will be (a party to which I have rsvp’d or our Cheers) to find out where I am. I have a big meeting in the afternoon, so I took the initiative (shocking!) to say, uh, what’s the deal, yo?!!!
He said, well, I’ll pick you up early and we’ll grab a drink before the show. I said, no, why don’t we grab dinner ahead, something casual? This made him very happy. Of course.
I mentioned that there is a change to a restaurant close to the concert hall that I heard about on twitter. I said, you know, I am secretly geeky. This wildly successful tech entrepreneur reminded me: “it’s no secret.” I told him that in our relationship, he is the nice one and I am me, which is the perfect yin and yang. He agreed that would make us in balance. And laughed.
He is a very dear man. I had such a great time when I last escorted him in September (driving BFD insanely jealous though we were on a break at the time), but I was not ready to date him for real. Heck even that night, I had plans to see BFD later that night.
He’s very interesting. He dropped out of college with some buddies and started a company almost 30 years ago. He sold his interest after a few years, went back to school, and now has another interesting venture. When I first met him, I knew he was thin and nice looking in a beautiful tuxedo. I also assumed he was filled with gaiety. He was, in fact, straight, and I had made such a ridiculous impression when we were all hammered following a gala, that embarrassment lead me to attend another party the next night at which I bumped into him again and he very directly asked me on a date. Of course I said yes. I had no idea who he was. Even after someone told me, I had no idea who he was. I also did not care. Then this guy approached and treated him like a rock star. Such reverence from all of these people. N had the grace to be embarrassed. I turned to him and said, wait, what do you do? He glossed and said “I’m a programmer.” I googled him when I got home and found first his wikipedia page.
Our first date was shitty, but the reality is that I was not yet ready (though I met BFD days later) and I need a man who is strong enough to make me date him. Seriously. Someone who is like, yeah, all that bullshit you do? Not happening here. This is a date, we’re together, and you’re going to have to deal with it. I like to dance on the line and I prefer to have male friends and admirers than boyfriends because I ALWAYS have a boyfriend.
Anyway, after our first date and my continuous blocking him as I started to date BFD, I was able to push N firmly into friend zone.
Since I am now single(ish), N and I are again contemplating dating each other. He’s had a crush on me forever and I genuinely like him. So, we’ll see.