I am having a bad day at the end of a bad week. As usual, I am stressed to breaking, except this week I do not have a car, so I have the added stress of negotiating my transportation, which adds an extra layer of suck to an already stressful situation.
It also means I am not seeing BFD.
I essentially live downtown (a $7 cab ride from anywhere I want to go) and it’s 10 minutes by bus, in rush hour. Getting around downtown is costs money, but it’s convenient. BFD is a $30 cab ride and there are no buses that get anywhere near him. Until I was dating him, my car situation was irritating, but not terrible. I had difficulty getting to the market, but friends of mine had incorporated hanging out time into getting to the market, so I got to shop carefully and see my friends.
On an early date, BFD objected to my car-less status. He understood why I did not have a car and the economics behind it, but it greatly affected our relationship, so he gave me his car in January. For a multitude of reasons, BFD now wants me to have my own car and to garage the one I was driving. We have discussed them and they are absurd, but his money, his wheels, his liability.
Last Sunday, I gave him back his car and I have spent weeks before that looking for one that fits within the budget he gave me. He is fronting money for me to buy a car of my own and I am ostensibly paying him back, but it’s likely while were together (and money is tight for me) he’ll hold the checks as he did with his car.
Though he is rich and spends money on himself, BFD has money issues and lending money is painful for him. He set a budget and he’s not going higher. When I found something I liked that was $1k over, he refused, though he encouraged me to get the money elsewhere.